When Kids Say ‘I Can’t’ – Phrases to Help Them Shift Toward ‘I’ll Try’

We’ve all heard it — that defeated little voice:

“I can’t do it.”
“It’s too hard.”
“I’ll never get it right.”

For kids (especially those with ADHD or learning differences), “I can’t” often means “I’m overwhelmed,” “I don’t know where to start,” or “I’m scared to fail.”
It’s not defiance — it’s a signal that they need support, not pressure.

The goal isn’t to push harder, but to shift the language toward growth and possibilit

These responses shift your child’s focus from outcome to effort, helping them build confidence and resilience instead of fear.

Why It Works

When kids feel safe to try (and fail), they develop a growth mindset — that belief that ability comes from practice, not perfection.
Each “I’ll try” moment builds the courage to face challenges without shutting down.

Next time you hear “I can’t,” pause before correcting it.
Meet your child’s frustration with curiosity, not control.
That small shift in language tells them:

“You’re not alone. We’ll figure it out together.”