Language Matters: The Words We Use Shape Behaviour

The language we use in the classroom doesn’t just describe behaviour — it shapes how we respond to it. For students with ADHD (and all neurodiverse learners), our words can be the difference between shame and understanding, shutdown and engagement.

When we label a student as “lazy,” “defiant,” or “unmotivated,” we stop looking for what’s really going on underneath. But when we shift our language, we shift our mindset — and that opens the door to empathy, problem-solving, and growth.

Why It Matters

 Reframed language helps us see behaviour as communication, not defiance.
It invites curiosity — “What’s getting in the way?” instead of “Why won’t they?”
It models compassion and growth mindset for every student who hears it.

Quick Classroom Practice

1. Pause before reacting — what’s another way to describe what you’re seeing?

2. Share this reframe practice with your team at your next staff meeting.

3. Reflect: How does your language shift your students’ confidence and motivation?

Small language shifts can lead to big behaviour changes.
Because when students feel understood, they feel safe — and when they feel safe, they can learn.